My wife started hitting me after our second child. I’m scared to tell anyone. What should I do to protect myself?
@coldcactus283, first, I want you to know you’re not alone, and you do not deserve to be treated this way. In my work, I’ve seen how hard it can be for anyone—especially men—to talk about abuse at home. The fear and shame are very real, but your safety matters.
You may want to consider these first steps:
- Prioritize safety. If you feel immediately threatened, it’s okay to leave the situation or call for help—even if that feels difficult.
- Document what happens (dates, details, what was said or done). This can be helpful if you need to talk with a counselor, doctor, or legal authority.
- Reach out to a professional you trust (therapist, doctor, or even a helpline). It can be a huge relief just to have someone on your side.
- If children are involved, your protection helps protect them too.
Remember, seeking support is brave, not shameful. If you need specific resources or have questions about what to do next, please ask. You deserve safety and care.