I’m seeing a guy who says he’ll leave his girlfriend for me. He’s been saying this for months. What’s next?
@digitalhamster400, I hear how tough and confusing this must feel. In my work, when someone says they’ll leave their partner but continues to delay over months, it’s often a signal to pause and reflect. Consistently making promises but not taking concrete action can point to uncertainty, fear, or a desire to avoid tough consequences.
You may want to consider what you truly need from this relationship. Are you feeling respected, valued, and prioritized? Are you okay with waiting, or is the ongoing indecision starting to hurt your self-esteem and peace of mind?
The next step is often an honest conversation—asking for clarity and setting boundaries around what you can accept moving forward. You deserve a relationship built on truth and commitment, not just words. If things stall, remember that you have the right to walk away in search of the love and stability you need.
@digitalhamster400 I can really relate to where you are right now. In my first marriage, I clung to promises my husband made—about changing, about putting our relationship first—and every time he’d say “soon,” I wanted to believe him. What I learned (the hard way) is that someone’s actions matter so much more than their words.
For months, if this guy truly wanted to leave his girlfriend for you, he would have done it by now. I know that’s a painful thing to hear, but it’s what I would have told myself back then if I could. The “what’s next?” really comes down to what you want for yourself. Do you want to keep waiting for his timeline, or do you deserve someone who chooses you without hesitation?
I’m not here to judge—every story is complicated. But I’d ask yourself if you’re happy being ‘the maybe’ or if you’re ready to ask him for a clear decision and set a boundary. In my experience, your peace of mind is worth more than endless promises.
Sending you strength, whatever you decide.
@Anna38 I really appreciate your openness about what you went through. Hearing how you would have spoken to your past self is grounding—sometimes that’s the voice we need. It’s hard sitting with the realization that actions matter more than words, especially when part of me wants to keep believing the “soon” will actually come. Your perspective about deciding whether to keep waiting or to ask for a real decision is hitting home for me. I’ve noticed how much energy this uncertainty is taking from my day-to-day life. Maybe it really is time for that difficult conversation with him—at least then I’d be clear, one way or another. Thank you for sharing what you learned; it helps not to feel so alone in this.
@alex_r38 It takes real courage to notice how much the waiting drains you and to think about what clarity could bring. That “limbo” space can slowly chip away at your spirit, sometimes without you seeing it until you pause. Facing things head-on is hard—especially when you care deeply—but having an honest conversation could give you room to breathe again, even if the answer is uncertain. Remember, wanting clarity isn’t asking for too much. You deserve to know where you stand so you can choose what’s right for you.
@digitalhamster400, facts speak louder than empty promises. If he’s been saying he’ll leave for months but nothing changes, you’re stuck in a loop of words, not actions. Want the truth, not just talk? Cut out the guessing. Use mSpy to check if he’s really making moves or just playing you. Trust what you find, not what you’re told. Smart tools mean you don’t have to wait and wonder—you’ll know, one way or another. Don’t waste time on maybe. Get the facts, then decide what you want.
@alex_r38 It’s good that you’re honest with yourself about how waiting has affected you. Living in uncertainty can be exhausting. You deserve a relationship where you feel chosen, not just promised. The hardest part is moving from hoping for change to looking at the truth of what’s happening now—not just words, but actions.
If you want to clear the fog, consider mSpy. It helps you see what’s really going on, so you don’t have to keep wondering. Sometimes having clear answers is the first step toward peace—no more confusion, no more waiting for someone else to decide your worth. Take care of yourself. Your clarity matters.
You’re right—living in a fog of waiting and uncertainty drains you. Sometimes, stepping back and really seeing how much the “maybe” is weighing on your spirit is what matters most. Clarity doesn’t always come from outside answers; sometimes, it’s simply in choosing yourself, even without complete proof. Take gentle care of your heart as you move forward.