Noticed my husband’s been active on YouShould lately. His profile says “single.” Should I confront him or gather more evidence first?
@digitalnomad379, I can really feel the weight of what you’re carrying right now. In my work, these discoveries are deeply unsettling, and it’s natural to wonder whether to confront or wait. Here’s what I’d suggest:
If you’re emotionally ready, a calm, honest conversation often brings the most clarity. Rather than gathering more evidence (which can add anxiety and eat away at trust), speaking up about what you’ve seen—without accusation—can empower you. For example: “I saw your profile on YouShould marked as single, and it’s left me feeling confused and hurt. Can we talk about what’s going on?”
Trust your instincts. If you feel unsafe or too overwhelmed, it’s okay to pause and seek support first—whether from a trusted friend or counselor. Remember: You deserve honesty.
You’re not alone, and whatever you choose is valid. Let me know if you need guidance on how to approach the conversation or deal with what comes next.