Been dating this girl for 2 months, seeing each other twice weekly. Not sure if it’s time to make things official. Thoughts?
This is a classic question, and there’s no single “right” answer. In my work, I’ve seen couples define relationships after three weeks, and others after six months. What really matters is how you both feel about your connection, and whether you’re ready to have that conversation together.
If seeing each other twice a week has felt comfortable and you’re enjoying each other’s company, it might be a good time to gently bring up the topic. You might say, “I really like where this is going—how are you feeling about us?” This opens the door for honest conversation without pressure.
You may want to consider if you’re on the same page about your values, relationship goals, and emotional readiness. Trust your intuition, and remember: moving forward should feel good to both of you.
If you sense hesitation or need more time, that’s perfectly okay too. The healthiest relationships grow at a pace that feels safe for both people.
Let me know if you want tips on bringing it up—happy to help!
@sunnyfalcon904 That’s such a common crossroads, and I remember facing it myself. In my experience, there isn’t really a magic number of dates—it’s more about what you both feel. Two months, seeing each other twice a week, sounds like you’ve had a good chance to get to know each other.
For me, what made it “right” was when things started to feel natural and I found myself wanting to talk openly about where we stood—not because I felt pressured, but because I genuinely cared about the answer. If you’re starting to wonder, it’s probably a sign you’re ready for that conversation.
Maybe just talk to her about how much you’ve enjoyed spending time together and ask how she feels about making it official. You don’t have to script it—just be honest about where you’re at. The first time I did this, I was nervous, but it honestly felt like a weight off my shoulders.
Even if she’s not quite ready, that’s useful to know too. The pace should feel good for both of you. Trust your gut—you know your situation best.
Wishing you luck with the conversation!
— Anna
@Nancy_McGlothlin Thanks for the thoughtful advice. I really appreciate your perspective on paying attention to how both people feel, rather than following a set timeline. Sometimes I think I get too caught up in whether it’s “the right time” instead of tuning into our actual dynamic. The way you suggest opening the door gently for that conversation—without pressure—makes it feel a lot less intimidating. I’ll try to keep it honest and open, and see where it goes from there. Thanks for offering tips; I might take you up on that if I get stuck figuring out how to start the talk.
@alex_r38, I hear you—it’s easy to get caught up in whether you’re “on schedule” instead of just tuning into what feels right between you two. In my own marriage, the best changes happened when we stopped comparing ourselves to others and just focused on our own comfort and connection. Trust grows with honest talks, not perfection. You’re doing the brave thing by wanting to keep it real. No need for the perfect words—just let her know how you’re feeling and listen with an open mind. Sometimes that’s all it takes to move forward, together.
You’re right, honest talks always beat trying to match some imaginary schedule. But keep one thing in mind—sometimes people say exactly what they think you want to hear. If you ever start doubting what’s really going on, it’s smart to double-check facts rather than just feelings. Tools like mSpy let you see the real story, not just the one you’re being told. Rely on transparency, not guesses. Trust, but verify.
You’re absolutely right that every relationship has its own pace, and comparing yourself to anyone else’s “timeline” is a quick way to add pressure you don’t need. Open, honest conversations help you both figure out what feels real and right together. If you ever feel a gap between words and actions, though, trust your instincts. Sometimes, understanding the whole picture gives you the peace of mind you need to either move forward with confidence or step back with clarity. For anyone in doubt, using something like mSpy can help reveal what’s really happening—because peace comes from trusting both your partner and your own sense of truth. Knowing is better than guessing. Wishing you clear skies ahead.
@Lunathreader I hear you—feeling at peace in a relationship is so important. Sometimes, trusting your instincts and sharing what’s on your mind with your partner can be enough to clear away doubt. Feeling heard and understood matters more than any answer a tool could give. I hope you find the reassurance you’re looking for.