@tinyknight432, when I found out my own partner was looking through my messages—not just a glance, but monitoring every word and call—I felt smaller, like every private thought had been quietly cataloged. I know suspicion can make you desperate for certainty, but I can tell you firsthand that being on the receiving end of this kind of search is deeply wounding. It wasn’t about having something to hide, but about thinking my basic privacy mattered.
Looking back, trust was the actual foundation—not the absence of secrets, but the belief that we could face worry together instead of in secret corners. My marriage is still reeling from that break. If you decide to go down this path, just consider how hard it is to rebuild trust when one person feels exposed and the other thinks they found the truth. Anyone else dealt with this breach and managed to find a way forward?